Be Good. Be Nice. Behave.

I recently had a discussion in the comment section of some older posts with someone who wished to have an exchange of ideas about religion.  What started out well turned sour, and I had to ask the person to stop commenting.  Read the blog?  Sure.  Agree or disagree with it?  OK, but no longer in the comments because they had worn out their welcome.

So when you comment on this or any other blog, here are  few things to remember so that you don’t wear out your welcome.

  1. Respect the time of the blog’s author. Don’t expect the person to respond to your comments instantly.  They likely have a life outside of the blog.  Don’t expect them to take time from their life to answer you immediately.
  2. Remember–you are not the blog author’s top priority. As I mentioned before, they have a life outside the blog.  But most blog authors, when they’re working with their blog, don’t make the comments their top priority.  They’re probably much more interested in producing fresh content.  Some authors interact with their readers (I am one), but some prefer to let the comments go without their interaction.  Whichever it is, remember that it’s not your blog.  It’s someone else’s.
  3. Stick to one topic. If you bring up a bunch of subjects at one time, you’re going to frustrate the author.  And if your goal is to frustrate the author (or other commentors), you’re what the cyberworld calls a troll–someone who is purposefully looking for a negative reaction.  If that’s you, you’re a jerk.  Don’t be surprised if you’re blacklisted.
  4. Keep it short. Try to keep your comments concise.  It keeps the discussion lively, and those reading won’t be as likely to lose interest.
  5. Don’t try to run the blog–it’s their blog, not yours. Don’t openly question why they run their blog the way they do.  Don’t openly speculate as to why the blog author didn’t respond to you immediately.  You’ll only make yourself look like the backside of a horse, and you’ll lose respect.
  6. If you’re disrespectful, don’t be surprised if you’re asked to leave. Common sense, yo.
  7. If you’re asked to leave, be respectful and leave. Without kicking and screaming.  Without making a scene.  Just leave.  And don’t expect to be invited back.

Remember, if you’re commenting on someone else’s blog, you’re commenting on someone else’s blog.  Play nice, treat people as you want to be treated, and it’ll be more fun for everyone.


About Aaron

Aaron is a follower of Jesus. He's married to his smokin' hot wife Laura and is the father of three adorable girls. He enjoys a robust cigar, a complex root beer, a good movie, writing, football, thought-provoking books, and rousing discussions about subjects you're not supposed to talk about (like theology and politics). Religious people irritate him (because he once was one). He's on a quest to find the perfect dry rub and sauce for ribs.
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6 Responses to Be Good. Be Nice. Behave.

  1. David Willis says:

    Wouldn’t it be nice if folks would heed this post? I’ve only banned one person from my blog and he violated everything you’ve suggested!

    • Aaron says:

      Same here. And this person was even allowed a second chance to play nice… and didn’t. Needless to say, this person ain’t happy, and there won’t be a third chance (any further comments from this person will end up in Spamland). It’s too bad, because the conversation was interesting.

  2. Greg says:

    I thought the dicussion was heading in a good direction until he decided to go a little coo-coo for coco puffs!

    I think you handled it well. Not much else you can do.

    • Aaron says:

      Thanks, Greg. There were a few choice words waiting for me in my spam box this morning that really demonstrated my point, but I chose not to make them public. Not going to give this person any more face time.

  3. David says:

    Been there too bro! And I’m still getting them!

  4. Gina says:

    Well done. You handled it superbly.

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