Jon Minus Kate Plus Eight

For several years, my wife and kids watched “Jon and Kate Plus Eight.”  I couldn’t stand it.  But last night, we watched the worst-kept secret in showbiz as they announced their separation (although news of their filing of divorce broke several hours before the show aired).

All we heard was this:  kids, kids, kids, kids, kids.

The show is for the kids.  The house is for the kids.  Kate’s flying around the country doing book tours with the volcano hairdo was for the kids.  Jon quitting his job to be a stay-at-home dad was for the kids.  They kept saying, over and over, that they wanted to do what’s best for their kids.

When you put your kids first ahead of your marriage, you’re not doing what’s best for your kids.

Not once did they mention their marriage.  Everything was about the kids.  Neither took personal responsibility for what happened.  They denied the show, or the extensive traveling, or Jon essentially being emasculated from his role as provider had anything to do with the breakdown of their marriage.  It’s so sad.  What’s even sadder is that they’re not alone.

Married folks, we need to put our marriages ahead of our parenting (even if you consider it priority 2A and 2B… because Jesus must be priority 1).  Our children need us to model what a good marriage is.  They need to see us communicate.  They need to see (within reason) a little PDA.  They need to see us disagree and make up.

The best thing for our kids is for us to honor “for better or for worse.”  Unfortunately, too many bail when they discover marriage isn’t “for better or for better.”  And then everyone, kids and adults, suffers.


About Aaron

Aaron is a follower of Jesus. He's married to his smokin' hot wife Laura and is the father of three adorable girls. He enjoys a robust cigar, a complex root beer, a good movie, writing, football, thought-provoking books, and rousing discussions about subjects you're not supposed to talk about (like theology and politics). Religious people irritate him (because he once was one). He's on a quest to find the perfect dry rub and sauce for ribs.
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5 Responses to Jon Minus Kate Plus Eight

  1. Doug says:

    AMEN!!! Gotta prioritize and work on our marriages!! I’ve been thinking those same thoughts about their situation.

  2. Melissa says:

    I wholeheartedly agree. I think it’s really sad that they kept saying everything was for the kids. The best thing that they could have done was tell TLC that they were not doing the show so that they could try counseling and see if there was anyway they could save the marriage. But apprarently their marriage was never really a priority. Very sad indeed.

  3. Wendy says:

    Very well said. I agree 100%. I kept thinking the same thing throughout the whole show. Made me start thinking about what my priorities should be. Let say they are not in line right now!!!

    • Aaron says:

      Hey Wendy,

      Fight for those priorities. I know you’ve got a lot on your plate. But you know what’s right. Fight for them. And let others at DCC help you fight for them (and help them do the same).

  4. Heather says:

    Good piece. Am I the only female on the planet who doesn’t like that show? Anyway, good piece.

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